Wow its been almost a year since I've posted on here. So much has happened since I first started this blog. I'm really appreciative of the people who took the time out to read any of my posts.

The reason why I'm posting is because my 29th birthday is approaching. I have no plans yet, I'll probably just hang around my family. I've been reflecting on my childhood a lot lately and I just never really thought about seeing this age. I remember being so overwhelmed by my current circumstances that I didn't allow myself to look ahead to my future. One thing I can say is that God has aided me along this journey. My mindset now is what I've always chased after for as long as I can recall. I have peace and a clear sense of purpose in my life. I can't remember ever being genuinely happy but now that's not the case. Despite my new found mindset, I just feel like something is still missing from my life. Maybe its riches, or a loving companion. I do want my own family but I feel I have so much work to do to become a better man before I go entering into someone else's life. I wonder is there a such thing as being READY? I'm learning to have patience because I truly believe that what's meant to be will make its way to me. I try my best not to measure my life with societal expectations so I guess I'll shut up now. Maybe i'll just get a dog lol

The upbringings of black boys are very challenging. We have to deal with a multitude of bullshit like absent fathers, mothers too young to be good parents, police brutality etc.. I always felt disturbed when I heard black parents tell their kids to be as non-threatening as possible around authority, which forces submission and passive behavior. I feel that some of our problems stem from being told what to do and who we are, instead of being encouraged to explore like the rest of the inhabitants of this world. These things usually happen before most boys have any say so in their lives. There's a disadvantage form birth, most are set up to fail; obviously there is no room for excuses in life, buy they do exist. The world doesn't care that you grew up without a father, it doesn't matter if cops profile you because of the color of your skin. Life is too short to feed the negativity despite the odds not being in our favor, we can all make it past these obstacles. The solution is recognizing our own abilities, some days it will feel like we don't stand a chance at advancing in this world. I've seen people accept the fact that they will struggle for their entire life on earth. It takes a strong-willed, ambitious person to strive for a better future. It's too easy to feel trapped and become a victim; when you're accustomed  to living a hard life, it all seems so routine. When these feelings are present change should be sought after, we are all creatures of habit. The habits don't discriminate either, good or bad ones are equally present. We must continue to strive to be Gods, life is meant to be experienced not just survived.

My questions for the ladies inspired by Ciara and Russell Wilson!!

 



First off I would like to say that I'm always proud when I see a black man and woman come together and form a family. It's something that seems rare, at least it's rarely showcased. Those examples need to be displayed more for our youth and the adults who have given up on the idea of love and companionship.

What I want to talk about is something that has been on social media, Ciara and Russell Wilson's engagement/ relationship. What I want to know is why must people bash her ex when she has clearly moved on? I don't get it, if she's happy in a new union why keep bringing up the past? The memes are starting to get old. I don't usually speak or even get involved in the media dominated topics, but I want to gain understanding from the ladies.

Why don't women take responsibility for dating and/ or attracting "bad" guys? I get tired of hearing the excuses. When is it time to grow up and admit that it might be you as well? A person can only put you through what you allow. Why do ladies have to be constantly dogged by a guy before she tries to double back for the dude who pursued her all along? Where's the honesty and self- evaluation? I don't want to seem like I'm attacking the ladies, I really am curious. Feel free to comment on here or on my Facebook or Instagram, I look forward to the dialogue.

Honesty

We all ask, beg and expect the truth from others, but we're willing to lie and/or hide something if it is to our personal benefit. I watched an internet radio show earlier and the topic was, Why We Lie? It was more about the lies we tell in our relationships. The question was posed, "Does your relationship compromise your manhood/womanhood? Do you have to lie to keep your relationship alive? I have been thinking about this all day. One thing I despise is dishonesty. No matter how it affects me initially I want the unfiltered truth. I've been called mean my entire life because I don't know how to lie effectively. In no way am I acting like I don't lie, I do it often. I'm big on protecting peoples feelings, which helps me justify telling half-truths. The problem is (in my opinion) that we've been conditioned to lie since we were younger. How many times have you heard adults tell a little boy, “it doesn't hurt be quiet”, when they're hurt? Obviously there are instances when you tell someone to suck it up, but imagine a person telling you how you're feeling. The media here is a prime example of dishonest practices. Its all around us, political campaigns on the tv and internet. These politicians sit up and put on fronts in order to gain supporters, which is phony as well. I listen to rap music and rappers are always talking about “keeping it real”. It goes without saying though, anybody that has to keep shouting how real they are can't believe their own words. I was heavy into religion until I realized that a lot of the things I blindly believed was not factual. It's impossible to be religious and well read. I literally have been on a mission to live in truth. Now that truth can differ for every individual because we're all different in someways. One of the books I read tht helped me tremendously was Empire Of Illusion: The End Of Literacy and The Trump Of Spectacle by Chris Hedges. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to open their eyes to the truth. I want feedback o this topic so feel free to comment. Are you honest with yourself on a daily basis? How easy is it for you to tell a lie? What makes a lie justifiable? Does white lies count as being dishonest? Feel free to add on and share this as well!

Being Independent

   

 

 

Not connected with another or with each other; separate.

 

That is one of the many definitions that I found on the word INDEPENDENT. I have become disturbed with the way my generation has embraced no needing anybody. We are all individuals that's true, but we can't exist without one another. We have become so ego driven that we don't even possess common sense. I'm so sick of hearing women say, "I don't need a man for shit". And the fellas that say women are only good for sexual pleasure. Those two perspectives explain why relationships between black men and women are so dysfunctional. Imagine if your father said he didn't need any woman at all, you probably wouldn't be here today. When will we wake up and understand that we all need somebody? That old saying, "it takes a village to raise a child", was true. We can all see that without the village in place, the lost generation has been produced.

 

I'm not going to act like having a sense of self-reliance is bad at all, there is nothing wrong with being a self-motivated person. I just dislike the fact that needing help along the way is now viewed as a weakness. We all need somebody else at various times and for various reasons.

 I will Blame It On The music for this trend that needs to stop!

What are your thoughts on this? If you can't respond on here share it on my Facebook page.

       

   

December Challenge

 

Today marks the start of a new week and the last day of November. It's a perfect day to reset and prepare for the last month of 2015. I've decided to challenge myself and do the things I've been planning to do. A lot of times life gets in the way of our goals, the time is now though. No more procrastination or making excuses, its time to execute. I challenge every one to be the person you were destined to be and that might not happen over night. It starts by planting a small seed everyday and staying consistent even when you don't feel like it. WE ARE ROYALTY!!

The Prototype

“All most women want is for their man to make them feel like they're the only girl in the world.”

 

How the hell can you feel like the only girl in the world? So you want dudes to lie to you huh?The previous quote always seemed like a selfish demand to me and I made it known everytime a woman uttered anything similar.

 

 Until I laid my eyes on her!

She had skin that shined like the sun, perfect as if baby oil just secreted from her body. Chocolate complexion like the best tasting candy bar. Her physique was also a work of art, perfectly proportioned. (She had a nice ass)   Such a beautiful sight to see. Although all of these things could be used to accurately describe the Queen, they only scratched the surface. She demanded attention from everyone, without saying a word. What intrigued me most about her was the fire in her eyes when she spoke about her passions. It led me to believe that she could not be stopped by anything or anyone. I enjoyed watching her share her experiences as she explored her artistic abilities. My first thought was to immediately tell her how I felt, but.......

The FEAR crept in.

“What if she is already in a relationship? Maybe I'm not interesting enough for a woman of her caliber. I'm sure she wants a guy who's already established financially.”

It took me weeks to approach her, I figured I had nothing to lose. So I proceeded to slide in her DMs

“Hello beautiful, I'm Eric. I like your energy and the way you present yourself. I would love to get to know you better. Here's my number (313) 529-5843 feel free to contact me anytime. Have a great day.”

I waited with great anticipation, sure that my confidence would be rewarded. After a few minutes my phone began to vibrate, she responded.

In my mind a new love was on the horizon, but........

 

she wrote back

“Thank You Eric for the compliments I truly appreciate you. Unfortunately I'm not interested in any male friendships, I'm focusing on my journey to master self-love.”

After the intial blow to my ego, I began to smile. How could I be mad at that answer, her response only intensified what I felt about her. I thought to myself, this woman is “the one” if she exists at all. The only girl in the world quote didn't seem so foreign to me anymore, I think I finally get it. We never had a physical interaction or even a phone conversation, but she challenged me in ways I never experienced. It was her essence and existence that inspired me to become a better person. It was a feeling I could hardly explain.

One word descriptions usually helped me remember people, but she was so much more than a empty interpretation of words, she was a feeling like no other, she was a once in a lifetime type of lady.

She was THE PROTOTYPE..........