My questions for the ladies inspired by Ciara and Russell Wilson!!

 



First off I would like to say that I'm always proud when I see a black man and woman come together and form a family. It's something that seems rare, at least it's rarely showcased. Those examples need to be displayed more for our youth and the adults who have given up on the idea of love and companionship.

What I want to talk about is something that has been on social media, Ciara and Russell Wilson's engagement/ relationship. What I want to know is why must people bash her ex when she has clearly moved on? I don't get it, if she's happy in a new union why keep bringing up the past? The memes are starting to get old. I don't usually speak or even get involved in the media dominated topics, but I want to gain understanding from the ladies.

Why don't women take responsibility for dating and/ or attracting "bad" guys? I get tired of hearing the excuses. When is it time to grow up and admit that it might be you as well? A person can only put you through what you allow. Why do ladies have to be constantly dogged by a guy before she tries to double back for the dude who pursued her all along? Where's the honesty and self- evaluation? I don't want to seem like I'm attacking the ladies, I really am curious. Feel free to comment on here or on my Facebook or Instagram, I look forward to the dialogue.

Happiness

This past weekend I attended the Detroit River Days Festival and I had a really good time. I initially went to support my little sister, she's in the choir at Detroit Academy of Arts and Sciences. After their performance wowed the crowd, I decided to stay and enjoy the other acts. I was very delighted to see Chante Moore perform, as well as the legendary Gladys Knight. I had the most fun that I've experienced in a while. I decided to go back to the festival on Sunday. I'm glad I went back, I got to see Dave Hollister, Jagged Edge and Bell Biv Devoe perform. Opening for them was a talented Detroit artist, Shay Lewis. She did a wonderful job entertaining the crowd, before one of her songs she asked the audience members a few questions.  1: Do you have  have dreams? 2: Are you living out those dreams? 3: Are you HAPPY? Those questions are the basis of this discussion. I thought to myself as she asked these things, I found myself in the gray area. I am living out some of my dreams and there are a few more manifesting gradually but I couldn't answer yes on the part about being happy. Thinking back I can't even recall a specific time in my life where I've ever been completely happy. It always felt like the good times were few and far in between. I've always been a glass half-empty guy, which isn't very healthy. I'm learning to embrace the process and accept temporary setbacks. Every experience, "good" or "bad", is a building block on the path of life. I really wanted to release my first book ( Blame It On The Music) on June 30th, but that isn't going to happen. There's no reason to be down or sad about it. I have confidence that when I'm able to release it, it will be a major success. In this process I've learned that personal happiness is something that we all have control over. To me happiness is really about having inner peace. I will stop attaching my personal happiness with monetary and materialistic items. Just like that I am feeling a lot better about my life and dreams. I want to thank Shay Lewis for using her gift as a tool of inspiration and motivation. I hope my words will do the same for others.