December Challenge

 

Today marks the start of a new week and the last day of November. It's a perfect day to reset and prepare for the last month of 2015. I've decided to challenge myself and do the things I've been planning to do. A lot of times life gets in the way of our goals, the time is now though. No more procrastination or making excuses, its time to execute. I challenge every one to be the person you were destined to be and that might not happen over night. It starts by planting a small seed everyday and staying consistent even when you don't feel like it. WE ARE ROYALTY!!

The Prototype

“All most women want is for their man to make them feel like they're the only girl in the world.”

 

How the hell can you feel like the only girl in the world? So you want dudes to lie to you huh?The previous quote always seemed like a selfish demand to me and I made it known everytime a woman uttered anything similar.

 

 Until I laid my eyes on her!

She had skin that shined like the sun, perfect as if baby oil just secreted from her body. Chocolate complexion like the best tasting candy bar. Her physique was also a work of art, perfectly proportioned. (She had a nice ass)   Such a beautiful sight to see. Although all of these things could be used to accurately describe the Queen, they only scratched the surface. She demanded attention from everyone, without saying a word. What intrigued me most about her was the fire in her eyes when she spoke about her passions. It led me to believe that she could not be stopped by anything or anyone. I enjoyed watching her share her experiences as she explored her artistic abilities. My first thought was to immediately tell her how I felt, but.......

The FEAR crept in.

“What if she is already in a relationship? Maybe I'm not interesting enough for a woman of her caliber. I'm sure she wants a guy who's already established financially.”

It took me weeks to approach her, I figured I had nothing to lose. So I proceeded to slide in her DMs

“Hello beautiful, I'm Eric. I like your energy and the way you present yourself. I would love to get to know you better. Here's my number (313) 529-5843 feel free to contact me anytime. Have a great day.”

I waited with great anticipation, sure that my confidence would be rewarded. After a few minutes my phone began to vibrate, she responded.

In my mind a new love was on the horizon, but........

 

she wrote back

“Thank You Eric for the compliments I truly appreciate you. Unfortunately I'm not interested in any male friendships, I'm focusing on my journey to master self-love.”

After the intial blow to my ego, I began to smile. How could I be mad at that answer, her response only intensified what I felt about her. I thought to myself, this woman is “the one” if she exists at all. The only girl in the world quote didn't seem so foreign to me anymore, I think I finally get it. We never had a physical interaction or even a phone conversation, but she challenged me in ways I never experienced. It was her essence and existence that inspired me to become a better person. It was a feeling I could hardly explain.

One word descriptions usually helped me remember people, but she was so much more than a empty interpretation of words, she was a feeling like no other, she was a once in a lifetime type of lady.

She was THE PROTOTYPE..........

MY LETTER TO THE SISTERS

    

 Letter to Black Women

Too often in this generation we're reminded of the division that exists in the Black Family structure. Our relationships are so damaged and fragile to say the least. We're constantly the butt of jokes and exposed to ridicule, most of which is self-inflicted. I want to start off by saying that I appreciate you melanated Queens, mothers of the earth. If you ever feel like no one cares about you, I want you to think again. It is because of you that we all have life. Because of you we know what beauty, strength, perseverance and ambition is. Your presence is so calming and necessary. Understand that I'm here to be of assistance to you, we don't have to compete. You don't have to be less confrontational or ignore your needs, for us to get along. You are not beneath me or anyone else and if people tell you anything different then they don't deserve you. I plead with you to set your own standards of beauty, society has lied to you all this time. You don't have to straighten your hair or show your assets in order for me to see your worth. You don't need to alter your body to catch a good guy or to get a few likes. Your physique was handcrafted like no other. Your smile lights the world, you're perfection in my eyes. You are royalty and I'm here to remind you if you forgot. Lift your heads up and wear your crown with dignity, the world will fall in line all because of your example. I love you and will always have your back, front, side or whatever you need.

Signed, King Eric

We All Need Fellowship and someone to speak positivity into our lives.

A few days ago I was feeling discouraged about my business and finances, just life in general. I really needed a word of encouragement and I got a call from my uncle. After our twenty minute conversation it was like a breath of fresh air, I realized in the moment that we all need one another. Too often we wait until we need a favor to pick up the phone and talk to our loved ones. It shouldn't take a person going to jail or being in the hospital for people to reach out and display unity. I'm a person that is more secluded with my personal life, I don't let a lot of people in my inner circle. I won't say that it's a flaw but that is a problem because when I'm down or discouraged I just let it build up. Granted no one to wants to sit up and hear me complain about my problems, I recognize we all need to communicate better with each other. In grade school we're all a part of these groups and cliques that help us feel like we belong to something and have a little support. As adults those groups are hard to come by, families become distant and so does most friends. It's obviously a part of growing and maturing, I just feel like our collective selfishness leads to the separation. Too many of us take the stance that we don't need anybody, but that is far from the truth. In this world each individual is a part of a greater collective, the sooner we realize how much we need one another the better our lives will become.

Throwback Blog

In honor of throwback Thursday I decided to share something from my past. The was the first blog that I posted nearly two years ago. I'm not a famous writer or a household name yet, but I'm proud of my progress, not only in my career but in my personal life. I've grown so much since that first post. I appreciate everyone who takes the time out to read my words and I hope that I inspire someone to follow their dreams!

Sunday, December 22, 2013

Individuality

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Everyday people struggle to recognize who they really are. So who are you? What do you see when you look at yourself? Where do you see yourself going in life? What does your life mean? What things do you love about yourself? I ask these questions because nobody asked me these things growing up. Nobody asked me where I wanted to be in five years. It didn't matter because I was always stuck worrying about the present. So when I went on job interviews, I had very little to say. When people asked me to tell a little about myself, often I sat in silence. All this came from not knowing who I was.  I'm from a rough neighborhood. I grew up on blocks infested with guns, drugs and violence. Although I rarely took part in any of it, I seen it everyday. I identified with the things I saw everyday, it became acceptable. I knew that my life was greater than my surroundings and circumstances, but I didn't see a way out . I often wondered why God protected me from the many temptations and bad things going on around me. I always felt the need to resist but I didn't know why. From an early age, I understood that I wasn't meant to blend in. My life wasn't created for me to be normal. God made me to stand out. I was placed here today to tell you that you're meant to stand out also. You won't always get the response you would like, if you choose not to follow the crowd. I've been called so many names I lost count, but I didn't care. My own "friends" called me soft. When people were following the crowd, I always went the other way.  I had the characteristics of a leader, but I didn't know. I feel like now its my purpose to help others recognize the greatness that lies within them. We aren't meant to be followers, but everyone isn't a leader either. Which one are you?